longer.blue

I'm going to preface this with the fact that I live in a semi rural area and the type of people I'm looking for aren't around here and there are basically 0 people in my town of 20k people . And I just can't drop everything in my life right now to just up and move somewhere with the hopes of meeting someone. But there are a LOT of areas within reasonable travel distance for me to get to know someone and potentially move there for them if things got serious. I've successfully dated long distance without issue in the past. I primarily use Hinge and Bumble and at least on Hinge my very FIRST prompt when you look at my profile says what my situation is and where I actually live. But since I started looking again in March after my last breakup I have gotten literally dozens of matches. However the significant majority of them literally cannot be bothered to actually read my profile before matching with me. I started bringing it up in my first message now and basically everyone either ghosts me or unmatches after that. (At least that's clearer). I've gotten only a single person who actually read before matching and I drove to where they lived to go on a date finally about a month ago. Didn't work out which is fine but... I'm not trying to dunk on women, but I have seen endless complaints about men for years and women are just shit at reading profiles before matching with someone. Like wtf am I supposed to do if people can't be bothered to read the first thing that pops up before matching with me? I have even had likes from people who I matched with. Hoping they actually read my info and still didn't , leading to same situation. It is so unbelievably exhausting putting in so much effort to be selective about who I like and not just swiping yes on everything, take initiative, ask thoughtful questions constantly and try to be a good and honest and upfront person about my current situation and put a ton of effort into my profile just to constantly get people who can't even bother to take 5 seconds before they match with me to read my profile and not just match based on my comment/like/my profile picture. TLDR, for the love of all things decent can people please actually read profiles ???? (This includes men.) This is just a friendly reminder. Maybe I'm the asshole for trying to meet someone outside of my arms length bubble where I live like most people. Guess I'll just drop everything in my life, pick a random city to move to and hope for the best. 😒