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I have already started with a cheeky personal quest for the authentic kinks here: https://longer.blue/posts/TPfISXnSyR Now, let's get a bit more daring. Did a fantasy ever cross your mind - and when you tried to search for it all over the internet - you have found nothing? All the keyword combinations that you could come up with failed, machine processing mostly misleading you to the well-known fetish cliches, based on the particular words taken out of their contexts? Finally, feeling left alone with those unique, unusual, unpopular, specifically flavored, context based kinks? While in my kinky mind the chastity play strongly attaches to the power exchange, submission, control - all and all sub/dom context - recently I have developed fantasies of equal-to-equal play with cages: buddies locking each other and supporting each other verbally and physically in restraint, denial, submission. Maybe going for a hiking or camping trip, teasing each-other to get more frustrated, cage-checking, exploring bodies. A kink set in a context, a story, making the experience more rich. However - searching for "mutual chastity", "mutually locked", "chastity buddies", "locking each-other" and other variations - usually misnavigates you to the plain "chastity" belt imagery - mostly locked bottoms getting fucked (yawn), or "mutual" masturbation, or "buddies" fucking. While the stricter combined expression searches rarely result in any finds at all. We all know well the delusion of clickbait "straight" label - misattributed to almost any gay porn out there these days. In this market-mindset-driven fierce competition for visits and likes and fans' cash, with inflation of millions of cheap videos, any search becomes pretty much pointless. Another one: imagine a group fuck scene, where one guy cums and then the other friend takes his filled condom, puts it on his dick, and continues fucking with it, maybe adding a second load. Quite simple idea and not that extreme - considering how established and normalized the bareback has become in gay porn. There is something risky, even "dirty" underneath the fantasy, but also with a twist: some sort of trust held towards your buddy (and not recoiling from his juices) that adds an extra thrill. In that sense quite opposite to the "breeding" or even "pozzing" mindset. I keep bothering search engines with "condom swap", "condom share", "used condom" - but again I am getting misdirected to completely different set-ups. The most common is the guys playing with "anonymous load" "anon condom" - a very different idea and thrill - as if there was no other possible framing than that. Let's try something more difficult. Two guys get in a huge plastic bag together. Not so much a breath play focused scene (alas "bagging" keyword will reliably point you towards one particular type of activity), definitely not a "vacuum bag" (another popular cliche - because you need to buy something expensive for it). They can still breathe (even if a challenge may be introduced), they sweat, they smell their combined stink, maybe piss or release other fluids. A very juicy and slightly restrained intimacy moment. This does not even fall into one particular fetish category. Impossible to find, even if I doubt that no one else has ever come up with such a simple idea. I find these 404 moments one of the most frustrating feature of the contemporary porn websites, as much as the individual kinky lives. "Lives" that just copy the predefined fantasies, neatly organized in predictable categories: Twinks, daddies, otters, bears, bareback, BBC, human urinals, chastity belts, ball-busting, rubber gimps, hand spanking by elderly fat daddies. Often enacted in a very repetitive, sterile, almost mechanical ways. Videos focused on details of "that thing" - with no faces, backstory (that is not utterly ridiculous), context, heavens forbid emotions or connection hinted. Most of the time, the costumes, props or acts serve just as a foreplay to plain old boring fuck. Kink as "another way to be with/around male body" - beyond fucking, sucking or jerking off - does not compute. There is nothing in between or beyond the well-known cliches. The porn is context poor - and if you seek something like a "story", you may end up punished by really poorly-acted porn scenes, where the roles get played out with million times overused cringe-worthy phrases (that were probably never sexy even in the first place). We all know that porn "actors" are not actors, porn "writers" are not writers. And "who would bother anyway", since we all just "log in to get off", fast, so that we can "do something else". Right? Right?? It has been the most challenging discovery of my sexual life - that the Context is my ultimate kink, that the good Story is what turns me on (not so much the props and costumes). Often times I get more excited watching a suggestive incomplete scene in the real movies, than the porn where you see it all. "Blah blah blah, show us the dicks, the holes, the fucking." - is not a statement from my sex life. "Slow porn" could one day become the same term as "slow food" "slow fashion" or "slow travel". Here are some ideas of mine: - chastity buddies taking care of or watch over each-other - guys getting actually locked (in chastity, cuffs, muzzles, collars), the initiation and interaction side of it - mutual nipple clamping (ideally interlocked) where guys can challenge each-other by pulling more, same with genitals (mutual CBT) - CBT in form of roulette: the accident chooses your torment, the peers make sure you do it - sharing or swapping one condom - precum, sweat, smell, cum involved - sweating, pissing, kissing, sniffing, or a breathing challenge in a shared plastic bag - whole body shaving (head to toes, eyebrows included) - particularly of extremely hairy guys - especially in submission/initiation context - smooth on hairy, cut on uncut - interactions focused on the difference - age play (younger and reasonably older) guys without having to frame it as "daddy and son" or "daddy and twink" or "teacher and pupil" - that have become turn off for me in their surfeit - circumcision as a fetish activity, circumsexual in a form of interaction, beyond putting gomco clamps on oneself (are we not there yet?) - body modification as an exchange: master modifying slave, or buddies challenging each-other with getting both a piercing - slave initiation ceremonies, initial struggle, feeling how some kink activity feels for the first time - writing, reading, subscribing the slave contracts, adopting the submissive mindset, struggling with some difficult points - multiple slaves sharing a BDSM situation, serving and suffering together, mutual punishments, bound so that they feel the pain applied to the other - army fetish that goes beyond "wearing costumes", training (sweating) involved, - camouflage painting in a sex play, perhaps semi-permanent whole-body camouflage body-paint? What are yours?